Aging is an inherently frustrating process. Changes in our physical appearances and abilities can be psychologically complicated to process. Between hearing changes and the fast-changing culture, it can be hard to communicate with people. Gracefully, as we age, our knees, feet, and joints might get stiff or achy. These things can be intensely frustrating.
However, we don't want to spend our retirement years in frustration. We've endured enough of that in the workplace. No, we want to spend our retirement enjoying ourselves. It is, therefore, crucial to find ways of coping with frustration to keep your retirement smooth. Here are ten tips to help you manage your frustrations as you age.
Emotionally distancing yourself from the situation can help you see things more objectively. In the heat of the moment, when we feel very frustrated, we often distort or exaggerate events. Walking away from the frustrating situation for five minutes, taking a few deep breaths, and trying to view the problem from a birds-eye view can help you gain perspective and take control of a frustrating situation.
Sometimes, when we feel frustrated, we have a hard time simply saying the words, "I am frustrated." We may instead become angry and irrational. There is great power in acknowledging an emotion, feeling it, and then letting it go. Taking command of the emotion and saying the words, "I am frustrated," can be very empowering in the moment. It gives you a way to voice your feelings and communicate to other people that you may need a break. It may also open up the conversation to help you get at the larger root issue of the frustration.
Is the source of your frustration something that you can change, like an environmental factor in your home? Or is the source of your frustration something that you cannot change, like the price of gasoline or having a weak knee? If you can exert any control over the situation to change it, your frustration might be warranted. It's time to tackle the problem. Recruit help if needed. If there is nothing you can do to change the situation, the best thing you can do is find a way of accepting it.
Sometimes, bringing a situation to an objective third party can help you take stock of what is going on and find ways to address what is frustrating. This is a very fancy way of saying: talk to a friend. Review the situation with your spouse, your best pal, a therapist, or even your pastor. Talking to someone outside of a frustrating situation can be an excellent way to gain perspective.
It can be hard to exercise as we get older, but that doesn't mean it is impossible to exercise. If you have specific joints or body parts that hurt, talk to your doctor and ask them what kind of exercise you can do. Even a gentle walk around the neighborhood, a morning swim at the YMCA, or yoga in the park can be a great way to get some exercise. Not only will it help your body, but the exercise will also help you process frustration better and cope with stress better in general.
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Frustration can be a powerful motivator. If it is channeled into something productive, it can actually be a helpful tool. Maybe you have taken up painting or drawing: take your frustrations out on the canvas. Perhaps you are starting a new exercise regimen: channel your frustrations into your workout. Redirecting the energy that frustration brings us is a good strategy for dealing with unavoidable frustrations.
That's right: take a nap. Sometimes, when things get truly outrageous and we just don't know what else to do, going to bed can be a great way to reset the situation in your mind. In a way, it is the ultimate power move: you are exerting your power over the situation by wandering off and taking a snooze. Not only is it a great way to regain control of yourself, but taking a nap is also beneficial for our concentration and even our physical health.
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